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It all started with an innocent Facebook post that i shared from a friend’s timeline, i call it innocent because i didn't anticipate the response it generated or that it would form a topic for my writing soon. And here is the post:
‘’if you can’t afford her needs, say it, don’t go about saying she is materialistic, women have needs, while men have responsibilities.’’
As you would guess, the attack came from guys, they were quick to blow it out of proportion, yes out of proportion, as they say that a good and hardworking girl doesn't need a man to be her ATM machine, must be willing to contribute to the house up keep, infact split the cost of running the house into two, and they went on to say why guys these days prefer a working class lady to the one who is not working.
Anyway, their argument may be sound, but it didn't get me convinced or confused, i still maintain my stand, by my own understanding of this post, men have responsibilities over women, and should not in anyway try to evade it with this our modern thought of a woman should also contribute to the upkeep of the house bla bla.
From time immemorial, God has designed men to be the head of the house and thereby take responsibility over their household which include their wife and children.
Am only wondering how fair it is for men to say women should be part of upkeep, but when it comes to house chores and other domestic duties, we see men doing it as a taboo, and we hear things like ‘’ha, o ti je efo ni’’(he has taken vegetable) but no one says the same when a woman is being compelled to take responsibility on the household.
I am not saying it is wrong for women to be part of the financial upkeep of the house, no it is actually a good thing but it should be willingly and not forced under some uncalled rules, neither am i saying it is cool all the way for men to scrub, mob, do the dishes and even wash their wife’s clothes( though there is nothing bad there , afterall since the women can take up some of the financial duties of the man, the man should reciprocate same)
What am saying in essence is that God has so designed each gender’s role so differently, and so if any gender decides to assist with the other’s duty, it should be seen as a privilege and not a right.
I think it is only fair if we have both parties respecting the right of others and not necessarily acting as if it is must; a woman would always be a woman and a man remains a man, no matter what anyone thinks. Women no matter how rich they are still want their husbands to care for them because it simply gives them a sense of feeling that is so good, so men, when your woman make demand of you, if you can’t afford it, say it politely and gently to her, rather than go about saying she is materialistic because she has asked you to buy a pair of shoe that she so admired.
Mind you, not that she can’t afford it if she wants to, she just want to feel like a woman loved and cared for by her man, that feeling is there when you take responsibility over her than when you insist on your manly ego that things must be done your way.
Call me a feminist if you like, i already made my point and it’s my opinion, yours may be different though, but guys it still your responsibility to take care of your woman, no rule can or should change this.
